1) Trust Yourself
Whatever your dream or calling is, you need to trust yourself and pursue it. You can't listen to the naysayers or follow the path of your parents or family members, but rather discover what your mission is and go after it. Arnold's family wanted him to be a police officer like his father, or play a “normal” sport like soccer instead of pursuing bodybuilding, but he knew deep down inside that isn't what he wanted. He had to go against what others wanted for him so that he could forge his own path of success.
“What is most important is that you have to dig deep down, dig deep down and ask yourselves, who do you want to be? Not what, but who.
And I'm talking about not what your parents and teachers want you to be, but you. I’m talking about figuring out for yourselves what makes you happy, no matter how crazy it may sound to other people.”
What would my life been like if I continued working in the family business? Who knows. I can say that I'm so grateful and happy that I decided to quit and pursue my own path, otherwise I wouldn't have the life I have today and definitely wouldn't be writing this blog post to you
Trust yourself no matter what anyone else thinks.
2) Break The Rules
You have to be willing to step outside of the box and try something different. For Arnold, he had to go against the norm in the movie industry as he didn't fit the criteria of a movie star. All of the agents turned him down at first saying that his body was overly sized, he had an accent that nobody could understand, and his last name was nearly impossible to pronounce. But that didn't stop him, and eventually those liabilities turned out to be assets for him and have made him famous for who he is today. Sure enough, Arnold became the highest paid actor in Hollywood and is world famous because of the fact that was different from others.
“It is impossible to be a maverick or a true original if you're too well behaved and don't want to break the rules. You have to think outside the box. That's what I believe. After all, what is the point of being on this earth if all you want to do is be liked by everyone and avoid trouble?”
3) Don't Be Afraid To Fail
Even though Arnold is a massive success, he's had many failures along the way. He's lost bodybuilding championships, has made some horrible movies, made mistakes as Governor of California, and has even gone through an ugly divorce with Maria Shriver. One thing that he mentions is that none of the success would have been possible for him if he was fearful of failure. It's because of Arnold's confidence and belief in himself to take risks that has made him successful.
“You can't be paralyzed by fear of failure or you will never push yourself. You keep pushing because you believe in yourself and in your vision and you know that it is the right thing to do, and success will come. So don't be afraid to fail.”
4) Work Your Butt Off
To achieve any amount of success in life, you need to work hard. Arnold Schwarzenegger is notorious for his inhuman work ethic. I remember reading in his other books about how he would workout for hours out of the day, work his physical labour brick-laying job, and attend business courses at university all at the same time. He slept only 6 hours a night and worked extremely hard to achieve his success.
“But when you're out there partying, horsing around, someone out there at the same time is working hard. Someone is getting smarter and someone is winning. Just remember that. Now, if you want to coast through life, don't pay attention to any of those rules. But if you want to win, there is absolutely no way around hard, hard work.”
5) Give Back
Arnold's final rule is about giving back. He believes that in any path you take in life, you must always find a way to give back to your community, to your state, or your country. He talks about reaching out to help people bringing immense satisfaction and joy to ones life, more than success itself.
“Let me tell you something, reaching out and helping people will bring you more satisfaction than anything else you have ever done. As a matter of fact today, after having worked for Special Olympics and having started After School Programs, I've promoted fitness, and now with my job as governor, I can tell you, playing a game of chess with an eight-year-old kid in an inner city school is far more exciting for me than walking down another red carpet or a movie premiere.”
This is an important rule, as I feel contribution is one of our needs to be truly fulfilled. Most people have a scarcity mindset and are only focused on themselves, not realizing that you'll never be ultimately happy through focusing on yourself. It's when you get outside of yourself and make a difference in someone else's life that your life really has a sense of meaning and fulfillment. The reason why relationships and friendships are so fulfilling is because there is a sense of contribution in them. You need to contribute and give in some way to build a relationship, otherwise you'll be alone and empty. The more you give, the happier you will feel.
I feel a great sense of fulfillment through my blog, videos and products that I release. I especially feel it when I receive so much positive feedback and love from people on here, in my inbox, on Facebook, and on comments on my videos. It reminds me why I do what I do and motivates me to keep going. It brings a lot of joy and fulfillment in my life that I am able to help others with their lives. It's my mission and purpose in life.